Everything will be alright

A couple of weeks ago I was feeling worried about my daughter’s health and her upcoming liver transplant when I received an email from Hay House which I opened on my phone. Instead of opening an email it went straight to an audio of Wayne Dyer’s which I hadn’t heard before. It was only 10 minutes long and his voice sounded slightly different, but very definitely Wayne’s. In this audio he talked about trust and towards the end he said the same sentence over and over again, and that was, “Everything is going to be alright. Everything is being taken care of in every area of your life. Trust. -Everything is going to be alright.”

Later that day I went back to the email to listen to the audio again and I couldn’t find an audio attached. I asked other people to check it out, just in case I missed it, and according to everyone there was no email attached.

I even went so far as to email Hay House and ask, but unfortunately, only got an automatic response. I know I didn’t imagine it, and I don’t have that audio on my phone so I’m taking it as a sign from God.

Whenever I go through a tough time in life, I go back over the ten steps to see if I’m not doing something. Invariably I find there’s some little habit I’ve let slip, recently I noticed how often I complain. That tells me that I am not being congruent. So I’m back to monitoring my thoughts and words.

I also noticed I’ve been feeling resentful, so I’m monitoring that, and doing more to fill my needs. I have only been meditating once a day for a while now, so I’ve returned to twice a day. I’ve changed my values, and I am ensuring that I take 100% responsibility for my life. And I forgive daily and focus on what I’m grateful for.

I wrote my book Love the Life You Live so I would have something I could refer back to any time my life didn’t flow, and I can only say that for me these steps have been invaluable.

Whether you use my work to help you create the life you want, someone else’s, or you have your own routine, it will only work if you embody what you believe in, otherwise it’s just intellectual knowledge. I have had so many people say to me they feel like a fraud, and that happens when we pretend we are something we are not.

None of us are masters. We just have to practise ourselves what we teach and/or believe in and everything will be alright.

What Legacy Will You Leave Behind You?

“Love is my gift to the world. I fill myself with love and I send that love out into the world. How others treat me is their path; how I react is mine.” This is a quote by Wayne Dyer and is indicative of how he lived his life. He was in Australia sharing his message, and a couple of days later he passed peacefully in his sleep.

I don’t know how many of Wayne’s talks I attended, I’ve read most of his books and listened to his audios hundreds of times and I feel as if a personal friend has died, but beyond the sadness is the the legacy Wayne left behind. The legacy Wayne Dyer left behind him is huge, he inspired me to believe in myself and my dreams. Many times I heard Wayne Dyer say, ‘Don’t Die with Your Music still in You’ and this is a message I took to heart and is one that I live by. I encourage you to do the same.

In the world today there are more negative people than positive ones. There are more people who are ruled by fear than by faith. Beyond Blue estimates that 1 million Australian experience depression and 2 million experience anxiety. We can do something about this. Not everyone is going to help others in the way that Wayne Dyer or even I do, but you can inspire people around you with your attitude, by sharing your knowledge, being supportive and kind.

I was blessed to come from a family cursed by depression. I say blessed because watching the way some members of my family lived their lives and coped with depression by hiding away, inspired me to conquer my own fears, to find ways to cope when my mood goes down. When my daughter was diagnosed with major depression and anxiety in her teens I was able to support her to find her way out of the black hole. I am so, so proud of my daughter today, she is still challenged by depression but she has chosen to live her life to the fullest. Every time she falls down she lifts herself up. When she is afraid she forges ahead. Expect to hear about her in the future because she is the one who will take over my work and add her own gifts when the time is right.

Each and every day we have a choice, we can live our lives from a place of love, or we can react and allow our fears to restrict our choices. We cannot have everything that we want in the way that we want it, but we can always attain the feeling. Remember, the feeling is the real goal.

Include as many pleasurable activities as you can into every single day. They don’t have to be major, it could be something as simple as enjoying your morning coffee (bliss!), having lunch in the sun with a good book, connecting with a friend whose company you enjoy. When you become accustomed to feeling pleasure on a regular basis it motivates you to do what makes your heart sing.

Be mindful. When you are mindful you are not thinking about what you have to do next, worrying about how to solve a problem, or thinking about a future event, you place your attention on the here and now. If you feel anxious rather than making a judgment about it, or yourself, or looking for ways to change your state, you accept that this is how you feel right now.

The purpose of mindfulness is not that you plan to be mindful every minute of the day, there is a time and place for everything. There will be times when it is necessary to do something to change your state, or look for a solution. Mindfulness is practised in short bursts.

I urge you to commit to living your life to the fullest, to follow your dream, to connect regularly with people who uplift you so that you too can be an inspiration to others and leave a legacy of love behind you.

How to Manifest Your Dreams Easily

Wayne Dyer stood on stage and drew an imaginary line. On one side was the place most people spend their time which includes having less than we really want, struggle, and disappointment. On the other side is the field where we manifest dreams easily. As he talked Wayne stepped into the field of manifestation and invited everyone in the audience to do the same. That was in September 1997, it is a day which is etched in my memory as one of those defining moments.

Up until that time I was like most people, at times I could manifest dreams easily, then something would happen to make me doubt myself and I would move backwards. On that day I was so inspired by Wayne Dyer’s message I chose to believe, and I saw myself step over that invisible line into the field of manifestation.

I would love to say that my life has always flowed easily from that time onwards, sometimes it has and sometimes it hasn’t. The difference though is that my commitment to my dreams is as strong now, 18 years later, as it was on that day. That means that when I doubt myself, I take action. When I feel fear I move into it. When I fall down I pick myself up and try again.

I Changed a Lot of Habits

Following that seminar I changed a lot of habits. I particularly monitored my self talk and what I spoke about with others. I started creating the ten steps I cover in my book Love the Life You Live, and I committed to living by my values. Leon Nacson recorded the seminar and offered the recordings at a really great price so I was able to listen to that seminar, which went for at least 6 hours, every time I got into the car for about a year, so that the message was ingrained in my consciousness. Over time I shifted from believing I could have everything I wanted to knowing I could have everything I wanted. Knowing is the key.

Wayne Dyer says, “In order to manifest you must assume the feeling of the wish fulfilled. You must be able to feel it in your body long before your senses are aware of it. Your inner pictures and the corresponding feelings that are connected to your vision belong only to you, and you begin to treat this inner world of thoughts and feelings as sacred territory. You make the shift from believing to knowing, and what you absolutely know is not tinged with doubt.”

All it takes to change your life is one decision followed by consistent action. Sometimes we are motivated to change when things get tough, or we can be motivated by a book, a speaker, or something we read.

What needs to happen for you to step over that line and into the field of manifestation?

I wholeheartedly recommend all of Wayne Dyer’s books and audios, they have changed my life.

My Top 6 Inspirational Books

Several years ago I conducted a survey where I asked my blog readers where they would look for guidance or help if needed. Among the options included were; counsellors/life coaches, courses, friends and books. And most people told me that when they needed help or inspiration the first place they would turn to would be a book, followed closely by a friend.

I must admit The Power of Positive Thinking was the first of many inspirational books that changed my life because until I read it I had no idea that I had the power to change my life simply by changing the way I think. But as great an impact as that book had on me it was several more years before I really committed to learning more, and I only did this because I felt lost and directionless. I didn’t have a career, or any prospects of one. I was living on a Government benefit and looking after my two young children, one of whom was just a baby. But I had a great friend, Helen, who visited every weekend and each week she bought me a new book. Although I was grateful at that time I didn’t really realise just how much of a blessing those books were and what an impact they would have on my future. Some of the books Helen gave me included: Think & Grow Rich, Success through a Positive Mental Attitude, The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity and The Magic of Thinking Big. They literally changed my life as they inspired me to start my first business, from my kitchen table, with absolutely no money.

I have no idea how many inspirational books I’ve read since that time, but I wanted to name just a few that have really impressed me, and I’d love to hear what inspirational books have changed your life.

Conversations with God – Neale Donald Walsch
When I was going through my mid-life crisis I would go for a walk each morning and ask for guidance and each day I received insights as to how to change my life. A lot of those insights I implemented into my life but sometimes I did wonder if it was just my imagination, then a friend gave me the book Conversations with God and I soon discovered that some of what Neale was writing about was the same as the guidance I received. It reinforced that I was on the path that was right for me, and in some instances answered some questions I still had.

You’ll See it when You Believe it – Wayne Dyer
If I had my way I would make this essential reading in high school. In this book Wayne so clearly describes how we’ve got it all wrong, that we wait until we see something until we believe, whereas we need to act as if we believe then our dreams come true.

Don’t Die with Your Music Still in You – Serena J Dyer and Wayne Dyer
When Wayne Dyer died I felt so sad I went on a binge re-reading many of his books. One I hadn’t read was this one so I bought it at that time and I just loved it.

The Happiness Advantage – Shawn Achor
I love to learn and this book, while not just a motivational book, is filled with information on research and statistics that prove that being happy needs to be a priority in all of our lives.

The Success Principles – Jack Canfield
This is a book I recommend to all of my life coaching students as it not only inspires it is practical. It is simply filled with tips and strategies on how to live a great life.

Jonathon Livingston Seagull – Richard Bach
I loved this book, I was so inspired by the story of this little bird who didn’t accept limits that I bought a china seagull and named it Jonathon. It still lives in my living room and reminds me to never ever give up.

What books have inspired you, or changed your life?

 

 

Defining moments

Defining moments are those times in life when a shift occurs that changes the direction of your life, and one of my most memorable defining moments occurred for me on 6 September 1997. That day began under a cloak of sadness. Princess Diana, who was so loved around the world, was to be buried that day, and I learnt that Mother Theresa, had quietly passed from this world to the next.

For me though that day started with the hope that I was finally going to get some direction that would get my life back on track. It ended full of joy after attending my first Wayne Dyer seminar entitled Manifest Your Destiny. I had read a couple of Wayne’s books but up until that day I had never been to a live event. I was fortunate though to attend many of Wayne’s talks after this before his passing.

Up until that time in my life most people would have described me as successful, I had owned a successful business, been a best-selling author, professional speaker and regularly featured in the media but that was in the past. I was stuck in a rough patch. I had lost money in business and I was struggling financially even working part-time as a bookkeeper just to make ends meet, which was a real blow to  my self esteem. I didn’t know who I was. What I believed in. Or, even what I wanted. I had reached an all-time low in my life.

Wayne Dyer walked on the stage and asked for a minute’s silence to remember Princess Diana and Mother Theresa. I sent up a silent prayer, asking for direction and peace. My prayer was answered.

One of my strongest memories of that day was Wayne standing on stage and asking us to imagine an invisible line. On one side of that line was happiness, love and everything we wanted and on the other side was everything we didn’t want. Throughout the day as he wanted to emphasise a particular point Wayne would step to either side of the line. One story that has stuck with me is when Wayne talked about buying things we thought were ugly. He said, “Imagine walking into a store and seeing an ugly rug and saying ‘that’s the ugliest rug I’ve ever seen’’, I’ll have one’.  He explained that’s what we do over and over again when we choose to dwell on the things we don’t want in our lives.

There is intellectual knowledge and there is heart knowledge. I had read all the books, even taught some of the principles that Wayne taught that day, but it hadn’t seeped through to my heart, the level at which we accept something whole-heartedly as I did that day. Sometimes we just need to get to a low point so that we can really listen and understand the guidance that is all around us.

When we live from the mind we often have one foot in either camp, just in case we are wrong. We may act as if we believe sometimes, then we talk to friends and allow doubt to seep in and we step back over the line. We say we want one thing, but we don’t do anything to make our dreams a reality. Every time we procrastinate, doubt ourselves, complain or talk about our problems we buy the ugly rug.

What I learnt that day is to create a life you love takes 100% commitment. You need to choose who is in charge of your life, is it you or is it the people around you? Are you going to allow someone else’s opinion to be in charge of your life? Are you going to allow fear and doubt to rule? All you have to do is ask yourself where those choices are taking you.

To experience the massive shift that I did that day you need to trust your heart, to step into the unknown knowing that life is always on your side and wants you to have your heart’s desires. You need to act as if you trust even when you don’t know how.

I walked out of that seminar inspired, ordered the audio series and listened to it every single day, acting on everything I learnt from the seminar and implementing some of my own strategies as well. I did the meditation Wayne recommended every day. In the 12 months following that seminar I quadrupled my income without even trying. It started when I received a call from a complete stranger asking me if I would be interested in writing a book for his client. Writing books on money was easy for me so I accepted. When I told my accountant how this opportunity had turned up out of the blue he mentioned a client who was doing something similar and looking for some help, he asked if he could pass my contact details to him. His client called me and I wrote two books for him as well. A couple of months later I was in a local shopping centre when I ran into the publicist who, who had done the publicity for my books when she worked for Random House, following that meeting and unknown to me, she put my name forward and they contacted me about adapting Susie Orman’s books on money for the Australian market.

That work, while enjoyable, wasn’t what I wanted to do long term, tit was a stepping stone that supported me to let go of self-doubt.

Nine months after that seminar I started working as a life coach. A year after that I started my life coach training school. Since that time I’ve discovered a love of writing courses. I feel as if I was born to teach. None of this would have happened if I had continued to listen to my self doubt. I needed to listen to and trust my heart. And the biggest lesson I discovered is that your heart will never lead you astray.

Wayne Dyers’s Meditations for Manifesting was one I listened to daily during this time you can find it on YouTube.

 

Where are your thoughts taking you?

When Wayne Dyer’s book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life was released in 2009 I purchased it immediately only to discover that it wasn’t the book I expected, so it was tucked away unread on my bookshelf. My daughter Laura has been telling me to read this book for quite a while, so needing inspiration one day I pulled it out and started reading a verse a day. And as the old saying goes, “When the student is ready the teacher will appear”.

For nearly 20 years I have felt blessed to be able to do work that I love, but as my business has grown my role has changed and sometimes I find myself spending hours marking a never ending pile of assignments or troubleshooting administrative problems. This change in my daily routine took me away from feeling joyful and I found myself becoming increasingly irritable, negative and tired a lot of the time. Wayne’s book was the perfect reminder to take control of my thoughts.

It’s easy for anyone to be positive and happy when everything in life is flowing, it’s when life challenges us that we need to be conscious of where are thoughts are taking us. Being positive is not a state you reach and stay there. To live in a state of flow we need to be conscious and willing to change the way we respond.

I chose to be mindful whenever I found myself in a low energy state, or whenever I was tempted to moan about something that irritated me. Instead I focused on all I had to be grateful for. Before long I noticed how incredibly grateful I felt, even when marking assignments, my least favourite job. I thought, How lucky am I to be doing this work, guiding teachers and coaches who go out and make a positive difference.

Thoughts are not something you take control of once, they are something you need to check in on on a regular basis. People often say to me how positive they are, and in some areas they most likely are, but we are all dual beings and we can be both positive and negative at the same time.

OUR THOUGHTS AND WORDS AFFECT THE WORLD AROUND US

We need to be conscious of how our thoughts and words impact the world around us. Now we all know that the world is predominantly negative and it is very easy to get caught up in negative emotions, but by being optimistic, grateful, kind and light hearted we can have a positive influence on the world around us.

According to HeartMath the heart’s electromagnetic field contains coding which is transmitted throughout and outside of the body and that intentionally generated positive emotions can change this information/coding. HeartMath believe that care, compassion, love or other positive emotions not only transmit through our own bodies but are transferred externally to people in close proximity, and possibly over long distances.

This means that we are constantly projecting our emotions into the energy field of the world around us. If you have ever read about the studies carried out by the late Masaru Emoto[2] on water you may remember his findings on how emotions change the quality of water.

When words such as ‘thank you’ and ‘fool’ were wrapped around bottles of water with the words facing inwards, the bottles exposed to ‘thank you’ formed beautiful hexagonal crystals, whereas water exposed to the word ‘fool’ created similar results as water exposed to violent heavy metal music, which was dark and murky.

CHANGE YOURSELF AND THE WORLD AROUND YOU CHANGES

When something is not working in our lives our automatic response is often to change something externally, but when we shift our focus off changing what is and onto changing our response we become powerful. We don’t have control over much that happens in the world around us, but we always have control over our thoughts and that is what makes humans uniquely capable of changing themselves and the world around them.

Some of the coaches I train get fixated on marketing, particularly their lack of knowledge in this area, and I know some who have spent $20,000 on a course to learn how to market their businesses. Yet the most productive thing they can do, that will guarantee a positive return every time, is focus on adopting and maintaining a positive mindset. Living your life as if you already have your heart’s desires is way more powerful than intellectual knowledge.

By adopting the habit of being mindful whenever you find yourself experiencing any negative emotion, you learn to focus on the present, not the past or the future. By giving thanks for all the blessing you have you create an energy field that draws what want into your life. This is what the law of attraction is all about, it’s not about wishful thinking and something magically turns up.

Write yourself post it notes and place them in prominent places, put reminders into your phone to stop and be mindful. Change your thoughts to ones that always support you and you will find that your thoughts really can transform your life.

[1] https://www.heartmath.org/articles-of-the-heart/science-of-the-heart/the-energetic-heart-is-unfolding/

[2] Masaru Emoto, Hidden Messages in Water, Simon & Schuster, Pocket Books, New York, 2005