Your Archetypes Contain a Map for your Soul

Carl Jung was, to my knowledge, the first scientist to talk about a map for your soul and personality archetypes. Jung described archetypes as “a pre-shaping possibility”, and while I am not a scientist, I’ve discovered, through my own life experiences, that each one of us has an inbuilt guidance system which is always guiding us to the life which will make us happiest, whether we follow that path is up to us.

When I lived through a prolonged period of extreme stress there wasn’t much in my life that flowed.  It didn’t matter how hard I worked, how much I worked on myself or how positive I tried to be nothing really changed. It was only when I reached breaking point and decided that if I wanted to have any quality of life I needed to accept the things I could not change, that my life started to flow again.

Becoming an accepting person changed my life but it wasn’t easy, and as it’s one of my life lessons, it still challenges me at times. During that time in my life I went to bed every night asking a different question. I never heard a voice which said, ‘this is what you should do’, life would be easier if we did and it can be so easy to miss signs when we have preconceived ideas of how answers should come, or what they should be. My answers came in the form of dreams and insights. I didn’t get the answer I expected – I got something much greater, an understanding of how our personality contains a map for the soul.

I started writing down my observations and discussed them with my daughter Laura Hartley. Laura has had a tremendous input into the development of the nine personality archetypes, sometimes showing a greater insight than I have. Our personality, which is made up of three personality archetypes, acts like a map for the soul which shows us what motivates us, the fears we need to face, the lessons we need to learn, the potential within us and the gifts we have to share.

If we only had one archetype life would be straightforward, but as we have three natural personality archetypes the interaction of these archetypes, combined with learned behavior is what makes our life path unique.

Some archetypes have a very clear path to follow, they are here to make a difference. Some combinations are clearly here to learn to love and trust themselves and to move beyond worrying about what other people think so that they can share their gifts. Other combinations clearly need to overcome their own insecurities and take responsibility for their dreams. Every archetype comes with positive and negative traits, fears and lessons to learn and gifts to share.

My gifts are to serve, love and share my wisdom. This has given me a very clear vision of what I want to do with the rest of my life. Sometimes though, when life isn’t flowing we can feel stuck, this is when understanding what motivates us can support us to move through our fears.

The soul knows what it came here to do and it is always supporting you and guiding you to the place in life that makes you happy. Pause and listen – what is your soul calling you to do?

If you want to understand your personal map come along to my Dharma Retreat to be held in Sydney in August. 

To Hear Your Intuition You Need To Quiet Your Mind

On 19th October 1987 I was working as a financial planner. This was the day that the media dubbed as ‘Black Monday’ when stock markets around the world crashed.

On the Friday prior to the crash I received a memo from the company that I worked under which said that they were uncomfortable with the current trends in the market.  They urged caution and left it to our discretion as to whether we should tell our clients to withdraw their money.  This was not as straightforward as it may seem because if every financial planner and broker advised their clients to sell they would create the very crash they hoped to avoid.  I had to think carefully about the repercussions of my advice.  So, I meditated on what to do.  Following that meditation, I followed my intuition and informed my clients about our concerns and left the choice up to them.  I spent the day on the phone contacting as many people as possible.  None of us expected the market to crash quite so quickly or to fall as much as it did.

Some clients acted instantly, even going in person to the investment company’s offices on the Friday and putting in their redemption requests.  These clients pulled out at the peak of the market and made money as their requests were lodged prior to the actual stock market crash.  Afterwards I asked some of these clients why they acted so quickly and in most cases they told me that they followed their intuition.

Warren Buffet has been named the second richest man in the world and no matter how much money he gives away; he just keeps getting richer.  For many years’ people listened to his advice because he was rich.  However, in 1999 he went against the trend when he predicted the downfall of Internet stocks and some people called him a ‘has been’. Warren kept saying, ‘I know it’s going to change I just don’t know when’.

Buffet’s predictions were later proven to be correct and he attributes his success to what he calls his ‘inner scorecard’ which is his ability to follow his inner guidance and not be swayed by other people’s opinions.

To Hear Your Intuition You Need To Quiet Your Mind

If you have lived with an internal critic for a long time, then it’s most likely you have stopped listening to your intuition.  The two just don’t co-exist very well.  And that’s because the inner critic is always second guessing every choice you make.  So the first thing you need to do is make it okay to be less than perfect, or decide that everything is perfect exactly as it is.

The easiest way to start accessing your intuition is to quieten your mind and ask questions and I prefer to do this just before going to sleep or prior to meditating.  You can ask for guidance, inspiration, an idea, whether you should trust someone, or take a job. there is no point though in asking if you are not prepared to listen to the answers that you receive.  Intuition only works if you act upon it.

Problems can either be stepping stones which help you uncover your gifts or they can keep you stuck in your fears.  When I first became interested in personal development, I felt that the authors of the motivational books I read led a problem free life so I always expected to reach a point in my life where I wouldn’t face any more major challenges—I was so wrong.  Problems are a part of life and everyone experiences them.  Often positive people don’t talk about what is going on in their lives, so it’s easy to assume that their lives are better than ours.

Wayne Dyer said, and I’m paraphrasing because I can’t remember the exact quote, ‘When you have a big dharma (purpose), you get big problems’.  Problems are not a form of punishment—they are opportunities to let your fears go so that you can grow to your full potential.

Your Purpose Finds You

Rachel said, “I am falling over with happiness”.  When Rachel started training as a life she followed all of the recommended instructions we give exactly. She never missed a session. She put in the recommended study time. She asked for advice and acted upon it. When it was time to practise coach, an acquaintance who worked for a charitable group, asked if she would be interested in coaching some of the people they helped, the long term unemployed. She accepted, and the coaching was so well received that she was offered a paid contract as a life coach to start once she graduated.

The synchronicity that Rachel experienced, is something that has happened many times in my own life. It occurs when you do what you love, when your thoughts, words and actions support the life you want to create, and when you are ready for opportunity.

Most people who live rich, purposeful lives don’t always know what their life purpose is when they start out, but as they take steps to do things that they have always wanted to do, their purpose reveals itself.

What prevents some people from finding their purpose is their intellect. When you get stuck in the left hemisphere of the brain, which uses logic and reason, to make life choices you miss out on so much. Sometimes you just have to have faith and trust your heart. The right hemisphere of the brain, which you access when you meditate, is where your intuition resides, by accessing this hemisphere more often your ability to make wiser choices improves.

I am an expert at helping people create rich, meaningful lives. I have a long track record of success, but I can’t help everyone and that is because some people aren’t ready yet. There are people that I know I could help but they insist on doing it their way. If they persist they generally get there, but it often takes a long time.

Your Purpose Finds You

The most prevalent reason that keeps people stuck is their fear that they are not good enough. If you feel this way I would suggest you say to yourself every time this thought enters your mind, ‘So what?’

Adopt an attitude that you will try what you love and if aren’t any good at it choose to  just keep working at it until you are. If you don’t like it, congratulate yourself that you at least had the courage to try. You gain something from every experience.

You don’t have to agonise over finding your life purpose, your purpose finds you, when you trust your heart.

The Passion Factor

If you had told me when I first started working that work could be so much fun I wouldn’t have believed you. Back then I had the mindset, as did most people, that you found a career and worked in it for the rest of your working life, with or without passion. Thankfully that way of thinking is behind us and now if you are brave enough you can create work that you love, and a whole new adventure for yourself at any life stage.

The older style of career counselling focused on skills and how to utilise those skills to create a new career. What I discovered is that you don’t need to have the skills or specific knowledge to change careers. As long as you have a strong desire, the willingness to do the work, the courage to take the plunge and persist, you can always acquire knowledge. What is most important is finding a job, career, business and lifestyle where you can fill your most important needs. If you can fill one need that is great, but when you find work that fulfils multiple needs, you discover your passion.

What I never realised when I was younger is how important creativity and intellectual stimulation are for me. I dabbled in sketching and painting, although I wasn’t very good I found a passion for it. I wanted to write but all of my bosses told me to forget it. However, I always felt that I was meant to write and as I pursued that avenue people came into my life to help me develop my writing skills. I expected that to be as far as my creativity went. Now a whole new world has opened its doors to me.

When I first started coaching I discovered that it was a creative process. Being able to understand people and knowing how to motivate and guide clients required creativity and that was stimulating. Then I discovered that I actually enjoyed writing courses. I love learning and research. I love teaching. I love meeting people from all walks of life. Last year I started making training videos and found them to be a lot of fun. Now I am thinking of creating a cartoon series for teens to teach them how to love their lives and every time I think about it, I feel joy bubbling up inside me. There is no end to the opportunities ahead of me.

The Passion Factor

I was having a chat with someone when I said, “I want to die kicking and screaming saying ‘I’m not finished yet’”. I could die tomorrow and be content with the person that I am and the contribution I have made with my life, while at the same time I want to do so much more. I want to live every moment of my life feeling alive, feeling this effervescence bubbling up within me.  This feeling was not given to me exclusively, you can have it too. It takes courage to risk failure, to face your fears, to break free from the tribe, and there are challenges to face.

I thought long and hard about writing Love the Life You Live because I wondered how could I, as an obese woman, tell people how to love their lives. I have had people say to me, ‘You don’t look the way you’re supposed to look’. At the time it hurt momentarily, but that blip was nothing compared to the feeling I get when a book reader tells me how much my book has changed their life.

Choose to be part of the minority who live a life filled with joy because you dared to trust yourself. Engaging in your passion on a regular basis is what makes you feel alive.


How do you know when life tells you it’s time to face your fears?

Several years ago I started coaching a man who was tired of working in the corporate world. At our first session Carl (not his real name) told me about a business that he had always wanted to own, but he dismissed that idea by saying, “There is no money in it”. Not long after we started working together, Carl was offered a well-paying position in the corporate world which he accepted.

Carl continued to work with me on and off over the years and made progress in his personal life and he improved his management skills, but he still wasn’t really happy in his job and didn’t know what he wanted to do. It took another change of job, which precipitated a midlife crisis before Carl finally listened to his heart.

Carl has now invested his life savings in the dream he told me about at our first session. He doubts that he will make as much money from this venture as he did as a corporate executive, but he’s chosen lifestyle and personal satisfaction over money. I personally think he has such great ideas, skills and such passion that he may surprise himself, but time will tell. When I caught up with a very excited Carl he said, “What always held me back before was fear. I simply wasn’t ready to face it.”

I hear a lot of reasons as to why people can’t have what they want ranging from: confusion, lack of money, lack of support, no skills, insufficient time, not intelligent enough, and not good enough. These are only the outer manifestation of fear. Problems, confusion or dissatisfaction, are mirrors which show you the fears you have yet to face.

Some people think that they are facing their fears, and have gone after their dream, but it didn’t work out and they settled. The reality is often that it was easier to give up than to face their real fear.

When I started my life coaching business I knew I had found my passion so I made a commitment to myself to do this work regardless of whether I made a living from it or not. I was prepared to get a day job that paid the bills and coach in my own time if I needed to, and there were times when I did just that. There have been times when my business has flowed and times when it’s been tough, but one of the things that I love about myself is that I never, ever give up. If it feels right, and I love what I am doing, I look at what I have to learn from the situation and then I address the fear.

Face Your Fears

The gifts that comes from facing your fears are freedom and joy. Freedom to live life on your terms, to be yourself, and joy that makes waking up each day worthwhile. There are too many people who just get by, don’t be one of them. The only thing that stands between you and the life you were born to live is fear. When you face the fear, accept responsibility and take steps to turn your dream into reality the people, money and resources come into your life to support you to turn that dream into reality.

It’s been a few years now since Carl started his business and business is booming. He said he is happier now that he has ever been.

The Seduction Of Security

At one time I worked as an accountant for a major publishing company and I thought I’d found my dream job.  I loved books. I liked the people I worked with. I met some interesting authors. After being self-employed for several years it was nice to have the security of a regular income.  But before long I realised that the work I was doing was so boring I started dreading going to work.

Talking to my family one night I said, ‘I think I’m going to resign’.  My security conscious dad begged me to reconsider.  Dad said, ‘But Anne you’re an accountant!’  My dad had a very valid point as such jobs weren’t always easy to get without formal qualifications.  I knew I did the job well, I was valued, my job was secure and there was the potential to move up within the company.  I also knew that I couldn’t do this work long term because it was soul destroying.  I needed a creative outlet and I needed to work with people.  So I resigned and it’s a decision I’ve never regretted.

Two years later I was offered the position of starting and managing The Financial Woman, a financial planning business for women.  That job changed my life. It suited my essential nature. It launched my writing and speaking career. It set the foundation for the work I do today.  Eight years after I resigned, my first book was published by the very company I once worked for.

Although I like security it is nowhere near as important to me as it is to some people.  Recently one of my daughters said to me, ‘I’m worried that if I don’t leave this job soon I am going to get locked into a career and lifestyle I don’t really want.’  My daughter has been very successful, after just a few years of working she was offered the role of setting up and managing a large medical specialist centre.  She enjoyed the job and liked the people she worked with but her passion is writing.  She eventually left that job to travel the world, a decision she now says is one of the best she has ever made.

The Seduction of Security

Most people start their adult life with so many hopes and dreams and within the span of ten years so many settle for less than they really want. They get trapped by security, financial obligations and the expectations of others until they become so locked in they feel they have no other choice.

Ignoring the call of your heart can lead to confusion or a midlife crisis.  Driven by the need to find a better way to live some seek the services of a life coach, or look for the answers in books.  If you are willing and open you can rewrite the story of your life.

Look at your life as it is today and ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you get more enjoyment from a leisure activity than you do from your job?
  • Do you feel as if something is missing no matter how successful you are?
  • Are your weekends the highlight of your week?

If you answered ‘yes’ to any of these questions, it’s time to let go of the illusion of security and reassess your life.  I’m not suggesting you throw in your job or do anything reckless, just take time to reassess. Be open to finding a way even where there appears to be no way. Ask for help. Hire a life coach.  It’s scary to step out of your comfort zone and follow your heart, but the joy that comes from being true to yourself makes the journey so worthwhile.