Allow Intuition to Be Your Guide

In the months following my daughter’s liver transplant I started feeling discontented, obsolete, I lost interest in things I once loved and experienced mild depression. These feelings were familiar, I experienced all of them and worse when I went through my midlife crisis 20 years ago. That crisis led me to find passion, joy and meaning. So, following the urgings of my heart and soul I started to write, thinking that if I wrote about what I was feeling I would find my way out.

My writing started as a book, then a course and grew into a training program for coaches. The more I wrote my passion ignited, joy leapt, twirled and bubbled within me. My life felt meaningful again and I knew that this is what I wanted to share with others for the rest of my life.

Writing, if you want to do it well, needs to be an intuitive process. It’s using the thinking mind to get you started, then as inspiration pours through being prepared to put it aside and trust the process. I can write quickly. The three books I ghost wrote took just three weeks each and that’s because they were about money and it was a subject I knew a lot about. When my writing is inspired it’s a longer process, because my thinking mind gets in the way at times, so I need to gently remind it, now is not the time. Of course, there is a place for the thinking mind, the organising and getting my work out there is very much run by this part of me, but the creative process needs to be led by my intuition.

Some days I just sit at my computer and it pours out of me, I am just the vehicle. At other times, when I don’t understand the next step, I need to write my way to clarity. Usually this means that days of work and pages that aren’t quite right get thrown away. But when clarity dawns I slip back into the flow again.

When I write I meditate more than usual, I am fully present. I connect with my heart multiple times throughout the day and time stops. I can’t tell you what bliss this is, even though at times the pain (from arthritis) is so bad it feels as if my arms will fall off.

By following my intuition, I discovered what was making me feel discontented. I found the answer to a problem I hadn’t been able to overcome. I’ve found a way to meet an unmet need.

A very wise man once said to me, ‘Sometimes you just have to walk through the fire first”. The fire is different for each of us, mine is physical pain so I am going to have three joint replacements, starting December, one after the other as quickly as my body can cope, so that I can enjoy my life to the fullest.

For some people the fire represents their feelings of not being enough; worrying about what other people think or, being rejected.

Ask for guidance and take the first step, then follow that step with another. You may not feel inspired at first but as you walk through your fears at some stage inspiration will dawn, that’s when you will know you are exactly where you are meant to be, and doing exactly what you are meant to do.




Intuition Always Leads You to a Place of Joy

Intuition can speak to us as a gut feeling or through a sudden thought, yet we often overlook the most common way intuition speaks to us and that is through our feelings.

I’ve loved my work for the past 20 years, so it came as quite a shock to me when I started dreading going to work each day. Feelings such as this are a very clear message from our soul telling us when something needs to change, sometimes we need to change our circumstances and at other times we need to change ourselves.

I started asking myself what my ideal business would be like and as soon as I did this I knew I wanted to help more people to awaken. Jonas Salk once said, “Intuition will tell the thinking mind where to look next”. My intuition told me to get back to doing what I love, which is creating, writing and setting up the Be Different Movement, and do less administration work. That’s meant cutting back on some of the courses that make us money, but I know I’ve made the right decision, I feel joyful and everything is flowing easily.

Steve Jobs said that intuition is more powerful than intellect and scientists now back this up. Sometimes intuition comes from our subconscious which works at an incredibly high speed, sometimes it comes from God.

Most of us don’t acknowledge intuition enough

It takes courage and trust to follow our intuition. Courage to break away from the tribe and do what you feel is right for you, and trust to know that if you are following your internal guidance system you will always be supported. Intuition will only ever lead you to a place of joy.

Here are some examples:

You have a strong desire to write a book, ego tells you that it needs to be a best-seller.

You have a strong desire to start your own business helping others, ego tells you that you that you need to be the best.

Intuition guides you to forgive, ego resists or wants to get back at someone.

Ego places conditions upon what you do, Intuition says just do it, the door will open. This is how I’ve lived my life. Every success I have achieved has occurred when I did what I intuitively felt led to do. I always felt I could help people through writing a book, it never entered my mind how many copies my book would sell, or even if I could do it. When I decided to be a life coach I decided that even if I couldn’t make a living from life coaching I would so some other work and continue to do what I loved on the side. When buying a home seemed to be an impossible dream, I just prepared for my own home by saving small amounts and buying a few items in preparation for it. I also loved the home that I rented by painting and gardening and making it mine while I was there.

When you listen to your intuition you allow love, joy and abundance to flow into your life. When you listen to your ego you allow fear to rule your life.

Intuition has nothing to do with control, in fact it asks that you relinquish control. It has nothing to do with achievement, although success and achievement often follow when you listen to it. Intuition will never lead you to a place of scarcity where there is only enough for a few, your intuition knows only abundance. Intuition never questions if you are good enough, it already knows your strengths and it will bring the right people and conditions into your life to turn your weaknesses into assets.

Develop the habit of listening to your intuition

When you take an outside-in approach your life is always guided by external factors. Other people’s opinions will always influence your choices. Fear of scarcity will keep you doing things that take you away from your joy. And you will live your life searching for more.

When you take an inside-out approach you shift the focus onto asking yourself, what can I give, how can I serve. Living your life in this way only leads to joy and abundance, although I must admit it’s often scary to step out in faith, but it’s a leap worth taking.

If you have not already established the habit of listening to your intuition don’t make radical choices overnight, start by making small changes each day, and that is the key, you need to make these choices consistently. As you leave your home ask for guidance as to the best route to drive, or where to park your car. Act upon the feelings you receive. If you work in a job that is less than your ideal, ask how you can serve each day, and act upon the answers. When you need to make a decision, which could be as simple as where to go on your next holiday, or whether you should change jobs, ask for guidance and act upon the answers.

By acting on your intuition on a regular basis you will begin to differentiate between ego and fear. You will develop an automatic response that will support you when you need to make the bigger choices in life. Listen to your feelings, they are your soul’s way of guiding you to make a new choice.