The Vacuum Law of Prosperity

At this time of year I usually start my annual clean up. I  go through my drawers and cupboards and I either throw out items I’ll never use or, I give them it away. It’s a habit I established more than 40 years ago, as a way of attracting more prosperity into my life, and it has served me well.

I was inspired to do this after reading The Dynamic Laws of Prosperity by Catherine Ponder, and when I was younger and very poor this book was my bible, and some of the principles covered in that book I still live by.

The one I wanted to write about today is creating a vacuum. Catherine says, “Basically the vacuum law of prosperity is this: if you want great good, greater prosperity in your life, start forming a vacuum to receive it!”  In other words, get rid of what you don’t want to make room for what you do want.

We all say, more often than we realise, how we wish we could have certain things. I have worked with clients who have said, I want more friends, but they don’t have any time to spend with these new friends. I’ve had many clients who have wanted more money yet the way they treat money and possessions indicates they don’t care about it, or their financial records are a mess. Many say they want more freedom, yet they don’t allow space in their lives for spontaneity.

What do you need to make room for?

Are you holding onto memories and possessions from a failed relationship?

Do you have a lot of old stuff you no longer use that could be money in your bank?

What are you afraid you’ll never be able to afford again?

If you would like to attract more of anything into your life I suggest that you go through each room and make an inventory of what needs to go.

I did this recently in my office, and even though I felt it was well organised to begin with I knew I didn’t want to store paper files in filing cabinets anymore. To start we cleared the tops of our filing cabinets and made room for plants or flowers as flowers have always been something that makes me feel prosperous.

Our record keeping is now mostly digital, and when we have finished checking all files, we’ll have more space.

Do you need to forgive yourself?

As you go through this clean up you may come across things you’ve wasted money one. Most of us have at some time or another. When we allow unused items, that were mistakes to begin with, to clog up our wardrobes and cupboards, we are constantly reminded of our mistakes. Forgive yourself for your mistakes and sell or give away the items.

I once worked with a client who was unable to clear away her clutter, even one drawer and that told me that there was a deeper meaning behind her clutter. I asked her to sit and ask the clutter what it was trying to tell her. She thought I was wacky but good-naturedly agreed and over the following weeks and months she gained so many insights into why her life was the way it was.

How to let go

Pick one room, one drawer at a time. Focus on one item and ask yourself:

Does this bring me joy?
Does it make my life easier?
Are there sentimental memories attached to it?
Will I ever use it?

If you don’t get any affirmative answers then bin it, sell it, or give it away.

When you let go of material possessions you need to emotionally let go as well. Then visualise what you want coming into the space that you’ve prepared.

Remember this, you never need to let something go if you want it. The aim here is to let go of things you don’t really use any more, that don’t enrich your life.

Focus on what you want to create?

Are any of the items in your home hindering you from doing that?

Are you making the most of what you have right now?

I’ve worked with so many people over the years who would not put any effort into a home because it was rented. I rented for 16 years before I bought my first home and I treated every home as if it was mine. That I believe is the secret to creating abundance. Love what you have right now. Treat everything and everyone with respect right now. Catherine Ponder says:

“When you have released, let go, and formed a vacuum for new prosperity, that is the time to do whatever you can to affect the rich feeling, the rich atmosphere, the rich look with your present substance. Mention the apparent lack or vacuum to no-one. …Do not talk about hard times or the necessity for strict economy. Do not think how little you have, but how much you have. This is the time to use your best china and silver, and to eat by candlelight, even if your menu only consists of pork and beans….Quietness and confidence is your strength when there is a need for greater prosperity”.

These principles have worked for me for over 30 years and I can attest that they do work.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Habits of the Rich

I’ve studied wealthy people for 40 plus years and helped many of them get richer, and the one trait they had in common is that they always acted as if they believed they could have what they want.

When money gets tight most people do one of two things, they cut down on spending, or rebel by spending money they can’t afford.  There is a balance between the two.  The last thing you want to do is reinforce a poverty consciousness by acting poor, so to be richer you need to adopt the habits of the rich, but do it in a way that you can afford right now.

Simple habits such as setting the table nicely, picking flowers for your house, or carrying a certain amount of money in your wallet can make you feel richer.

If you are acting like a rich person take note of what you talk about, you can’t talk about how tough things are, or complain about money.  It is much better to say nothing.  This is not play-acting or burying your head in the sand, it is focusing your attention on what you want.

When something is lacking it’s very easy to get caught in the trap of treating symptoms.  Symptoms could be debts, or never having any money left over for you, or possibly always living beyond your means.

When you face your fears they are often not as bad as you think

When I worked as a financial planner one of my clients inspired me to work more with attitudes to money. Myra experienced constant anxiety over money and couldn’t even afford to have coffee with a friend.

My first contact with Myra was on the phone when I noticed how abrupt she was.  She was also very tense at our first meeting.  For the previous 20 years Myra had not lodged a tax return and she lived in fear of being discovered.  Finally overcome by guilt, she confessed, ‘I cannot stand it any longer.  I realise I may lose my home and even go to jail.  Every time I drive past a women’s prison I think I’ll be in there one day’.  When I explained that the worst that could happen was that she would receive a fine, she didn’t believe me.

Another of her problems was that she had barely enough money to live on, although she earned a good salary. She hadn’t been brave enough to fill in a tax rebate form that would have automatically reduced her tax, because she didn’t want to alert the taxation department to her situation.

It only took minutes to assess that Myra had paid too much tax and was due for a substantial refund.  We could only find records dating back seven years, and the Taxation Department was happy to accept those. The end result was a tax refund equivalent to $60,000 and no fine as the Tax Department owed her money.

The change that occurred in Myra when she faced her fears was amazing. She had inherited half of her parent’s house, which her sister had been living in rent free for years. When she didn’t have to worry about going to jail Myra sold her half. She started carrying a reasonable sum of money.  She bought a new car, new clothes and adopted a new attitude. Myra passed away 15 years years after I first met her and while I was sad to see her pass at a relatively young age, I was happy that I had been able to help her enjoy her life.

Money has no power only the power you give it

As it is virtually impossible to ignore money, make money your slave.  Once you master money it no longer controls you and will lose its importance and this is when it’s easy to attract more of it into your life. It is only when there is not enough, or you fear losing what you have, that you  worry about it, talk about it, and constantly look for solutions.

Money has a host of myths associated with it, some of these are: you have to work hard to make money; money only comes through work; if you have more than your share then someone will do without; you can’t make money being honest; artists, or certain professions have to struggle; it’s different for some people; money changes people; rich people are snobs; or, you only get one chance.

If you limit yourself by accepting any of these beliefs then your life will not change.  Good fortune may fall into your lap but you will lose it somehow. Desire is the most important ingredient and if you want something badly enough you can achieve it. Prosperity is not just about making lots of money, it is being happy with whatever state you choose.

A mistake that some of my friends and I made when we first started practising positive thinking was to believe that if we spent and thought positively, the money would come. Sometimes it did, but mostly it didn’t.  You cannot ‘fake it till you make it’ by living beyond your means and running up debts. This is not acting prosperously, nor does it change the real cause of your problem.

The habits of the rich

  1. Pamper yourself. This encourages you to allow more into your life and as you become accustomed to small luxuries you start to believe you can attain some of your larger goals. Make a list of items that make you feel prosperous. They need not cost money and could be something as simple as having coffee out in beautiful surroundings each week, or having a bubble bath with candles burning. Whatever you choose it should be something you can afford, and that you pay for with cash.
  2. Live within your means. When you never have enough money it’s hard to focus on being wealthy, so if you already live outside of your means look for ways to change that situation now. You may need to consolidate some debt or make a realistic plan for reducing debt, take on extra work for a short period of time, or seek professional advice.
  3. Never put all your money toward debt reduction, you need to be moving towards what you want, so allocate some savings to your most important goals, and don’t worry if the amount seems insignificant to the amount needed. Your actions and how you feel about yourself is what is most important.
  4. Always have some money in your wallet. Most people can access their money through an ATM machine but there is nothing like having cash in your wallet. What makes you feel wealthy, a lot of small notes, or several large ones? Choose an amount that you always carry with you and aim not to spend it unless you absolutely have to.
  5. Aim to not have to think about bills by setting up automatic deductions as much as you can.
  6. Always allow some money to fill your most important needs on a regular basis. This doesn’t have to be a lot, but enough to make you feel like you can have what you want.
  7. Share what you have. By giving regularly you draw more into your life.

By taking small consistent action steps towards your dreams you start to develop a prosperous mindset, and that is when unexpected opportunities often come your way.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PROSPERITY: CHOICE NOT CHANCE

Prosperity means different thing to different people.  To me it means more than just money – it means total abundance in all areas of my life; my work, family, relationships and lifestyle.  Money is merely a commodity that allows me to enjoy these things more.

A great number of motivational books seem to be written for people who want to get rich and that’s fine, but not everyone wants to be rich.  Many want to be able to achieve their goals and live a life free of money worries.  Whatever your goal, it is achievable because there is no such thing as luck.  We create our world by the choices we make.  Some of us are more fortunate in circumstances of birth and education, but ultimately what we make of our lives and our finances is up to us.

Money problems affect people from all socio-economic groups.  Among my clients are wealthy widows, for whom money represents security and who are so fearful of making the wrong decision that they don’t make any at all.  There are outwardly successful career women who overspend on credit cards, often to compensate for a lack in other areas of their lives.  Others simply do not earn enough to live.  At one time I was one of the latter group and it was only when I began to work on discovering my deep-seated preconceptions about money that I experienced lasting success in overcoming my financial difficulties.

What makes you feel prosperous?

There are no hopeless cases and there is no virtue in poverty.  Anyone can prosper by taking charge of their thoughts and asking for help if necessary.  You can start by deciding what makes you feel prosperous.

One of my clients, Frances, found that her financial situation improved when she decided to include luxury items in her basic budget.

When Frances first came to see me, she thought she was a hopeless case.  Like many people with money problems she was on the defensive.  “Coming here today is the hardest thing I’ve ever done.  It’s like admitting I’m a failure and there’s probably nothing you can do anyway.”

Frances’s story

Frances is a librarian, divorced, and earning a good income.  She has a problem with credit cards.  Her debts included a personal loan, loans from two family members and seven credit card accounts.  The monthly repayments were crippling her, and she was being hounded by creditors.

At first we worked purely on a practical level.  We arranged a consolidation loan to clear all debts and then organised a budget so she could cover all expenses.

In the following months I saw Frances periodically.  Sometimes she made progress; sometimes she slipped back into her old ways.  We experimented with different methods of budgeting until we found one that worked.  At one time, after running up her credit cards again, Frances decided to withdraw the last bit of money that she had invested with a finance company.  At that time she was particularly stressed, as this meant she would have no money to fall back on.  The money was invested for a long term, and although Frances was withdrawing early, the man from the finance company went out of his way to help her, without having any personal knowledge of her situation.  He personally delivered the cheque to her home within a day.  At the same time I decided not to charge my normal fee. She said, “It really makes a difference, I feel there are people who really care and I’m not alone.”

During one visit I asked Frances what made her feel prosperous?  She answered almost immediately, “Always having flowers in the house and good wine”.  Her next budget included these things as essential items.  Most of Frances’ money went on paying bills.  Consequently she rarely had any money in her wallet and often had to turn down invitations from her friends.  I suggested that she should always carry $50 to help her develop a prosperity consciousness.  Whenever she used this money she should replace it immediately.

Six months later on Christmas Eve, I received a call from her.  It was to relay the good news that she had been given a promotion and with it came a $10,000 a year pay increase.  Her spending was under control.  She said, “I just wanted to let you know how wonderful things are.  I now know what it is like to feel prosperous.  The flowers and the wine, plus money in my wallet, made an enormous difference, I no longer feel deprived.  There is always money to pay the bills when they come in and for the first time in years, there is money in my savings account if I need it.  The most important discovery for me though is that there are people who care.”

Act rich

When money gets tight the majority of people either cut down on spending or rebel by spending money they don’t really have.  There is a balance between the two.  The last thing you want to do is reinforce a poverty consciousness by acting poor.  Expectancy plays an important part, so act rich – dress up, set the table nicely, pick flowers for the house.  If there is enough money available, have a manicure or visit the hairdresser.  If you are acting prosperously you cannot talk to everyone about how tough things are.  It is much better to say nothing.  This is not play-acting or burying your head in the sand, it is focusing your attention on what you want.

A natural tendency is to get caught in the trap of treating symptoms of financial problems.  Symptoms could be debts, or never having any money left over for you, or could be constantly living beyond your means.  One friend of mine has a tendency to overspend on credit cards.  Once she’s in too deep, she moans about her situation.  Then she obtains a consolidation loan, or her father bails her out, and she does the same thing again.  Overspending in her situation is a symptom of a deeper problem.

Many people think nothing of consulting a doctor to identify the cause if they are sick, and the same goes for financial problems: it is perfectly natural to ask for help.  Help can come from a financial adviser or a life coach, from a book or from attending a course.  Because money is one of those subjects that people don’t talk about readily it can be difficult to broach the subject or to ask for help.

Myra’s story

Another client gave herself endless anxiety because she was afraid to seek help.  My first contact with Myra was on the phone and I noticed how abrupt she was.  She was also very tense at our first meeting.  For the past twenty years Myra had not lodged a tax return and she lived in fear of being discovered.  Finally overcome by guilt, she confessed, ‘I cannot stand it any longer.  I realise I may lose my home and even go to jail.  Every time I drive past a women’s prison I think I’ll be in there one day’.  When I explained that the worst that could happen was that she would receive a fine, she really didn’t believe me.

Another of her problems was that she had barely enough money to live on, although she earned a good salary.  She had not been brave enough to fill in a tax rebate form that would have automatically reduced her tax, as she did not want to alert the taxation department to her situation.

It only took minutes to assess that Myra had paid too much tax and was due for a substantial refund.  We could only find records dating back seven years, and the Taxation Department was happy to accept those.  The end result was a tax refund of $25,000 and no fine.

It is hard to believe now that this client is the same person.  Whereas before she was lucky to have twenty cents in her wallet, she now always carries a reasonable sum of money.  She has a new car, new clothes and a new attitude.  Opportunities have arisen for her and it is very possible that she will soon be a wealthy woman.

Make money your slave

As it is virtually impossible to ignore money, make money your slave.  Once you master money it no longer controls you and will lose its importance.  It is only when there is not enough, or you fear losing what you have, that you have to cling to it, worry about it, talk about it, and constantly look for solutions.  This is misdirected energy which only creates more problems.

Money has a host of myths associated with it: you have to work hard to make money; money only comes through work; there is not enough for everyone else; if you have more than your share then someone will do without; you can’t make money being honest; artists, or certain professions have to struggle; it’s different for some people; money changes people; rich people are snobs; or, you only get one chance.

If you limit yourself by accepting any of these beliefs then your life will not change.  Good fortune may fall into your lap but you will lose it somehow.  Desire is the most important ingredient and if you want something badly enough you can achieve it.  Prosperity is not just about making lots of money, it is being happy with whatever state you choose.

A mistake that some of my friends and I made when we first started practising positive thinking was to believe that if we spent and thought positively, the money would come.  Sometimes it did, but mostly it did not.  You cannot ‘fake it till you make it’ by living beyond your means and running up debts.  This is not acting prosperously, nor does it change the real cause of your problem.  By all means act prosperously and pamper yourself, but start living within your means now.

Make your own list of items that make you feel prosperous, they don’t have to cost money, and be open as to different ways you can attain your goals. Experiment and look for a better way to manage what you already have. Remember, if you keep on doing things in the same old way you will continue to get the same results.

The above is an extract from Anne Hartley’s book Love Your Money, Love Your Life. Anne trains life and money coaches. For more information: https://www.hartlifecoaching.com.au/certificate-in-money-coaching-2/

 

 

 

Ask for what you Want

About ten years ago a book reader wrote to me saying she wanted to do my course but she had no money. She told me how she wanted to run women’s empowerment programs in the Maldives and she went on to tell me how she planned to do this. She also promised to pay the course fee when she made enough money.  I agreed to her request and she went on to run women’s empowerment programs in her country and in other countries under the United Nations Development program.

She also started a hospitality training school and every trainee who went through her program was taken through my life coaching process. Sadly, Anthu passed away a couple of years ago but she left me feeling privileged to have known her and to have made it possible for her to empower others. She gave me a reason to feel good about saying ‘yes’. She honoured her commitment to pay the course fee, even when I said it wasn’t necessary.

Last year I offered a scholarship to my life coach training course and I received a ton of requests. Most of those requests told me about their needs, why I should give them the course. Only two people told me what they would do with the knowledge that they gained from the course. The person that I gave the scholarship to told me about her commitment and that is why I chose her. So when asking for something think about what benefit there is for the person granting your request. When you ask with wisdom, your focus is more on giving rather than just getting.

Another way to empower yourself is to ask yourself questions. Any time you make a fixed statement such as, ‘I can’t afford a holiday’, or ‘I don’t have enough time’ you close the door on opportunity. You could house sit and mind someone’s animals and have a free holiday. You could be given a holiday. A friend of mine was going on holidays with her sister when her sister was hospitalised. The holiday was non-refundable and rather than go alone my friend offered me the holiday at no charge. I said ‘yes’ and had a great holiday in Singapore and the Maldives and all it cost me was spending money. I’ve been blessed with so many opportunities and material possessions simply because I’ve asked myself a question.

When I asked myself, “How can I make a profound and positive difference through the work that I do?” the answer I received was to get my school accredited. When business doesn’t flow the way that I would like I ask, “What do I need to do to reach more people?”

Ask for what you Want

Whenever I am coaching someone I often ask the question, “What does it look like?” In one instance I asked a man what ‘love’ looked like and he had no idea. He spent the next few months observing people expressing love until he became very clear on how he wanted to give and receive love. When I’ve asked the question, “What does success look like?” some people have been surprised by their own definitions, their answer have sometimes led them to reassess their goals. When I’ve asked people, “If you had enough time what would you do?” often they have had no idea.

Sometimes people make a lot of excuses to themselves. More often than not it’s a fear, not the excuse that prevents people from taking action.

Establish the habit of asking for what you want. You can ask for a hug, for someone to listen, for help or support, for money or for clarity. You can ask ‘How can I let go of this fear?” There is really nothing that you can’t ask for. Always remember though when asking someone to give you something, think about what you can give back to them.

Focus on Giving

Under the direction of CEO Howard Schulz, Starbucks became a company known for their philanthropy.  When Schulz resigned as CEO in 2000 the company was thriving.  However, during the intervening years the company stalled and many stores had to close.  When Howard Schulz returned as CEO the first thing he did was to take 10,000 store managers on a character and values boot camp to New Orleans.  This was post Hurricane Katrina.  During that time Starbucks’ employees gave more than 54,000 hours of their time in volunteer work and invested more than one million dollars in repair projects.  Howard Schulz attributes this time as being the company’s turning point because they reinvested in their people and in the company’s core values of giving back.

One of the keys to living a rich, meaningful life is to understand when you need to focus your attention inwards and when to focus on giving back. When you need ideas, inspiration, or need to make a choice this is the ideal time to go within and listen to your heart and soul.  If you listen to everyone else’s opinions at this time you will often end up confused.  Although I am a big advocate of trusting your heart and living a life that suits your essential nature, the paradox is that if you were to live your life solely on what’s in it for you—you would end up unhappy.

Focus on Giving

Happiness results from living a balanced life where you trust yourself enough to make choices that suit your essential nature, then live in such a way that your life is focused on caring for and giving to others.  Through sharing and giving we experience real joy and discover our purpose.

This principle doesn’t just apply to individuals, it applies to business as well.  Businesses that are just interested in the bottom line, the profits they can make, often don’t last over the longer term.

The time has come to shift our focus from greed and the ‘what’s in it for me?’ approach that has been prevalent for some decades to ask the question, ‘What can I give?’  This never means that you give up your dreams, in fact when you focus on giving in a balanced way, it becomes so much easier for you to achieve your dreams.