Moving into a state of flow

One of the things that I was surprised to learn about myself, when I first started doing this work, was how much resentment I felt. For many years I tried to be superwoman, taking on too much at home and at work, and it was a pattern that was part of my life for way too long. The insidious thing about resentment is that it damages relationships and stops money and opportunities flowing to you.

If you want more from life than you have now then look to your emotions.  Our emotions determine how much we allow into our life, and show us where we are resisting. Often feelings of resentment aren’t easily recognisable because nice people, who spend much of their time giving to others, justify or bury emotions they find unacceptable.

If you find yourself feeling resentful look at what is missing from your life.  Many women feel resentful simply because there is no time left for themselves.  So it makes sense to reassess your priorities so that you can make time to fill your own needs.

If you find yourself feeling resentful, irritable, anxious or mildly depressed look at what triggers those feelings for you. Then give thanks for these feelings, and annoying situations for reminding you to move into a state of flow.

Make a conscious choice to check in on how you really feel on a regularly basis, you can do this through being mindful, meditating or reflecting. When you live in a flowing energy state life is easier, you do the best you can, take responsibility and actively work towards your goals in a relaxed way.  If you need to, forgive yourself or someone else. Give thanks continually and make a habit of looking for the good in every situation.

Regular reflection and healthy habits enable you to recognise opportunities, this in when synchronicity occurs.


When you cease resisting what is

My life is challenging at the moment. Both of my girls have some potentially serious health problems, one more serious than the other, and my automatic response is to find a solution for them. But I’ve also learnt that the way to stay in a state of flow is to resist nothing, so accepting what is while still supporting them and seeking a solution requires a delicate balance. At the same time I know I need to take care of myself.

There are challenges that we all face and if you are faced with one type of challenge more than another, this is an opportunity to master this aspect of your personality. My major life lesson, or opportunity is a more accurate way to describe it, is to accept what is.

Resistance is like shutting a door. To go looking for a solution or to complain about what’s happening in your life may make you feel good for a short while, the problem is that its akin to shutting the door to life, and behind that door are all of the things that you’ve been asking for.

For most of us resistance triggers an automatic response and sometimes that response supports us and sometimes it doesnt. Some challenges are wake up calls. Problems can motivate us. Inspire us. And give us the courage to face our fears.

So next time you find yourself blaming, complaining, worrying, constantly talking about your problems or madly searching for answers PAUSE. This problem may just contain a solution that can change your life.

PRACTICE BEING MINDFUL. In the present moment you will find peace. It’s the best place to practice acceptance.

And when you can accept what is you live in a state of flow, and this is where life gets easier.