Acceptance + Faith Creates Miracles

I have been blessed to experience many miracles in my life and most of them occurred after a period of struggle which led to total and complete acceptance. I have written about and taught the benefits of being an accepting person for many years but it wasn’t until I lived through a really stressful period in my own life that I fully understood what it meant.

At one time the stress in my life reached a point where I simply had to escape for a short while, so I made a spur of the moment decision to hop on a plane to visit Sedona, one of my favourite places in Arizona. A few days later, after a long flight from Sydney, I checked into a spiritual retreat centre.

This centre has the most amazing energy. On my first morning I stood on my veranda at dawn as the sun rose and I felt as if my spirit had wings and was soaring over the hills. I experienced a state of ecstasy where I felt so connected to the red hills, the Earth and to God that all I could say was, “Thank you.” I loved everything about the place and I knew I was exactly where I needed to be to regain my equilibrium.

Over the next two days I felt emotionally at peace but physically ill and I became aware that I felt really nauseous whenever I was in my cabin and I started to improve when I was out in the fresh air. The cabin smelt strongly of linseed oil, which gives me migraines.

When I heard that a couple were checking out I immediately checked with the office about switching cabins, but my request led to an eviction order by the owner. I very graciously explained that I wasn’t complaining or unhappy and I wasn’t blaming anyone, I just needed a room that didn’t have fumes but I was told in no uncertain terms to leave. After finding a safe haven, then being unfairly evicted for asking for a better room I reached breaking point. I felt there was nothing more I could do and nowhere I could go to find inner peace. I felt that life was so unfair and that I was being unjustly being attacked for no reason, not just by the owner, but by someone at home.

That moment was a turning point. I knew that if I ever wanted to experience joy, and have any quality of life, I had to accept the things that I couldn’t change and that meant I had to stop complaining. I had to stop looking to change the situation. I had to learn to become comfortable with a situation that was unacceptable to me. Becoming an accepting person was hard—I struggled, and I still do at times, but I acted like an accepting person and by doing this I not only found peace but passion and purpose.

Life has presented me with opportunities, time and again, to accept what is and I believe that all surrender is, at its deepest level, is faith. It’s about putting the ego aside, accepting responsibility, doing what you can, then trusting that there is a reason for everything that happens.

I believe that every person who ‘pushes our buttons’ is our teacher. The man who owned the retreat centre became a catalyst for me to learn surrender. That moment of surrender led me to develop my personality archetypes which contain a map for the soul. While I’ve loved a lot of the work that I have done, spiritual coaching, helping others be the person they were born to be, is what I am most passionate about.

Every job we hate has the potential to motivate us to do what we were born to do. Every situation, even the most painful contains a gift for us.

WHAT ACCEPTANCE IS NOT

Acceptance does not mean resignation. Being an accepting person does not mean you sit back and accept that you have to put up with conditions that are unjust, or that you don’t look for solutions to your problems. But there is a big difference between being proactive and using force, or insisting that you have to have your way.

Acceptance is not denial. Some people think that if they don’t acknowledge their problems or, if they don’t think about them that they are accepting, in many cases all they are doing is repressing their emotions and the pain remains.

Miracles occur when you live your life as if you already have your heart’s desires. That doesn’t mean going out and spending money you don’t have, quitting a job you dislike, or walking away from your responsibilities. It’s about placing your attention on the daily habits, the little rituals you would participate in if you already had your heart’s desires. It’s about developing an attitude of gratitude for every single thing, even those things and people who challenge you. It is about surrendering to your purpose, understanding that God’s plan for your life may be bigger than your dream.

Acceptance brings peace. Faith is acting as if you have complete trust and confidence, even when you don’t feel confident. When you combine the two you move into an energy field where miracles occur.

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them; that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.
Lao Tzu

 

 

 

When Fear Rules the World

When fear rules the world we see the worst in humanity. In looking to defend and protect ourselves we shut down, close ranks and often believe in the supremacy of a race or religion. We attack. First with our words and sometimes when words don’t achieve the desired outcome attack can take the form of violence. We saw this with Hitler when he rose to power in Germany. We hear of this regularly when we see the devastation and pain that radical terrorist groups leave in their wake. And now the land of the great, through their choice of president, has confirmed that they are now one of the most fearful nations in the world.

In his book Power vs Force the late Dr David Hawkins, a renowned scientist who measured the energy vibration of just about everything, stated that the world’s population predominantly vibrated in the field of fear, and that there were 12 people alive in the world at that time (the nineties) who were keeping the energy vibration above the level of fear. I suspect that at least four of those people, and possibly more, have since passed over.

So where does that leave us? If you believe in the predictions of Nostradamus, we are not in a good place, but we always have the power to change ourselves and the world around us.

We do this by raising our individual energy field by being courageous. Being mindful of how we respond on a daily basis. Being a centre of peace in a chaotic world by going within regularly. By focusing on happiness and the peaceful world we want to create, not what we want to change. And most importantly we do this by doing what we feel called to do.

The world isn’t changed by just one person, the greatest impact comes from the millions of individuals who collectively use their energy to commit to freedom and happiness. We do it by supporting, loving and caring for one another.

I am so grateful that I have committed to being an accepting person because it would be so easy to get caught up in fear right now. Accepting means that I accept what is, while working towards creating something meaningful.

Who knows what this event may motivate one person to do. Who knows how many people who have been stuck in their own fear and self doubt will put their fears aside to make a meaningful contribution.

You may think I am just one person but you are one person who counts. Let’s join together and not allow history to repeat itself. Let’s use this event as an opportunity to grow to our full potential and work collectively to create a better world.

Where are your thoughts taking you?

When Wayne Dyer’s book Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life was released in 2009 I purchased it immediately only to discover that it wasn’t the book I expected, so it was tucked away unread on my bookshelf. My daughter Laura has been telling me to read this book for quite a while, so needing inspiration one day I pulled it out and started reading a verse a day. And as the old saying goes, “When the student is ready the teacher will appear”.

For nearly 20 years I have felt blessed to be able to do work that I love, but as my business has grown my role has changed and sometimes I find myself spending hours marking a never ending pile of assignments or troubleshooting administrative problems. This change in my daily routine took me away from feeling joyful and I found myself becoming increasingly irritable, negative and tired a lot of the time. Wayne’s book was the perfect reminder to take control of my thoughts.

It’s easy for anyone to be positive and happy when everything in life is flowing, it’s when life challenges us that we need to be conscious of where are thoughts are taking us. Being positive is not a state you reach and stay there. To live in a state of flow we need to be conscious and willing to change the way we respond.

I chose to be mindful whenever I found myself in a low energy state, or whenever I was tempted to moan about something that irritated me. Instead I focused on all I had to be grateful for. Before long I noticed how incredibly grateful I felt, even when marking assignments, my least favourite job. I thought, How lucky am I to be doing this work, guiding teachers and coaches who go out and make a positive difference.

Thoughts are not something you take control of once, they are something you need to check in on on a regular basis. People often say to me how positive they are, and in some areas they most likely are, but we are all dual beings and we can be both positive and negative at the same time.

OUR THOUGHTS AND WORDS AFFECT THE WORLD AROUND US

We need to be conscious of how our thoughts and words impact the world around us. Now we all know that the world is predominantly negative and it is very easy to get caught up in negative emotions, but by being optimistic, grateful, kind and light hearted we can have a positive influence on the world around us.

According to HeartMath the heart’s electromagnetic field contains coding which is transmitted throughout and outside of the body and that intentionally generated positive emotions can change this information/coding. HeartMath believe that care, compassion, love or other positive emotions not only transmit through our own bodies but are transferred externally to people in close proximity, and possibly over long distances.

This means that we are constantly projecting our emotions into the energy field of the world around us. If you have ever read about the studies carried out by the late Masaru Emoto[2] on water you may remember his findings on how emotions change the quality of water.

When words such as ‘thank you’ and ‘fool’ were wrapped around bottles of water with the words facing inwards, the bottles exposed to ‘thank you’ formed beautiful hexagonal crystals, whereas water exposed to the word ‘fool’ created similar results as water exposed to violent heavy metal music, which was dark and murky.

CHANGE YOURSELF AND THE WORLD AROUND YOU CHANGES

When something is not working in our lives our automatic response is often to change something externally, but when we shift our focus off changing what is and onto changing our response we become powerful. We don’t have control over much that happens in the world around us, but we always have control over our thoughts and that is what makes humans uniquely capable of changing themselves and the world around them.

Some of the coaches I train get fixated on marketing, particularly their lack of knowledge in this area, and I know some who have spent $20,000 on a course to learn how to market their businesses. Yet the most productive thing they can do, that will guarantee a positive return every time, is focus on adopting and maintaining a positive mindset. Living your life as if you already have your heart’s desires is way more powerful than intellectual knowledge.

By adopting the habit of being mindful whenever you find yourself experiencing any negative emotion, you learn to focus on the present, not the past or the future. By giving thanks for all the blessing you have you create an energy field that draws what want into your life. This is what the law of attraction is all about, it’s not about wishful thinking and something magically turns up.

Write yourself post it notes and place them in prominent places, put reminders into your phone to stop and be mindful. Change your thoughts to ones that always support you and you will find that your thoughts really can transform your life.

[1] https://www.heartmath.org/articles-of-the-heart/science-of-the-heart/the-energetic-heart-is-unfolding/

[2] Masaru Emoto, Hidden Messages in Water, Simon & Schuster, Pocket Books, New York, 2005