Your Archetypes Contain a Map for your Soul

Carl Jung was, to my knowledge, the first scientist to talk about a map for your soul and personality archetypes. Jung described archetypes as “a pre-shaping possibility”, and while I am not a scientist, I’ve discovered, through my own life experiences, that each one of us has an inbuilt guidance system which is always guiding us to the life which will make us happiest, whether we follow that path is up to us.

When I lived through a prolonged period of extreme stress there wasn’t much in my life that flowed.  It didn’t matter how hard I worked, how much I worked on myself or how positive I tried to be nothing really changed. It was only when I reached breaking point and decided that if I wanted to have any quality of life I needed to accept the things I could not change, that my life started to flow again.

Becoming an accepting person changed my life but it wasn’t easy, and as it’s one of my life lessons, it still challenges me at times. During that time in my life I went to bed every night asking a different question. I never heard a voice which said, ‘this is what you should do’, life would be easier if we did and it can be so easy to miss signs when we have preconceived ideas of how answers should come, or what they should be. My answers came in the form of dreams and insights. I didn’t get the answer I expected – I got something much greater, an understanding of how our personality contains a map for the soul.

I started writing down my observations and discussed them with my daughter Laura Hartley. Laura has had a tremendous input into the development of the nine personality archetypes, sometimes showing a greater insight than I have. Our personality, which is made up of three personality archetypes, acts like a map for the soul which shows us what motivates us, the fears we need to face, the lessons we need to learn, the potential within us and the gifts we have to share.

If we only had one archetype life would be straightforward, but as we have three natural personality archetypes the interaction of these archetypes, combined with learned behavior is what makes our life path unique.

Some archetypes have a very clear path to follow, they are here to make a difference. Some combinations are clearly here to learn to love and trust themselves and to move beyond worrying about what other people think so that they can share their gifts. Other combinations clearly need to overcome their own insecurities and take responsibility for their dreams. Every archetype comes with positive and negative traits, fears and lessons to learn and gifts to share.

My gifts are to serve, love and share my wisdom. This has given me a very clear vision of what I want to do with the rest of my life. Sometimes though, when life isn’t flowing we can feel stuck, this is when understanding what motivates us can support us to move through our fears.

The soul knows what it came here to do and it is always supporting you and guiding you to the place in life that makes you happy. Pause and listen – what is your soul calling you to do?

If you want to understand your personal map come along to my Dharma Retreat to be held in Sydney in August. 

The Mindset Of Success

One of my daughters experienced major depression in her teens, which prevented her from completing her HSC. As all of her friends went off to University she struggled to get through each day. When she sought full time work a few years later, with very little experience, she started on a salary of $50,000 a year, more than some of her friends who had graduated from University were receiving. Within three years she moved up to managing and marketing a large medical practice and her salary doubled. When she moved overseas a two-week temp assignment turned into full time work, and she stayed in that job until her visa ran out. She was earning five times more per hour than her fellow travellers who took on waitressing jobs.

Laura is a hard worker and is very intelligent, but so are many other people, the reason Laura has been able to succeed at anything she does is her mindset – she believes she can have anything she sets her mind to, and a positive mindset supports you to recognise opportunities.

Dr Richard Wiseman, author of The Luck Factor, carried out an interesting experiment with two groups of people. One group consisted of people who considered themselves ‘lucky’. The second group was made up of people who considered themselves to be ‘unlucky’. Both groups were asked to count the number of photographs that appeared in a newspaper. The people who considered themselves unlucky took several minutes to complete this exercise as they flipped through each page and counted the photographs. On average the group who considered themselves to be lucky only took several seconds to complete the task. The reason for this was that most of them had stopped on the second page of the newspaper after seeing the message: “Stop counting: there are 43 photographs in this newspaper”.

The people conducting the experiment concluded that people who believe they are lucky are always on the lookout for unexpected good fortune, whilst those who believe they are unlucky have closed minds, and therefore miss opportunities.


Your perception of life influences every choice you make. Perception determines how happy you will be, how hard or easy life will be and how successful you are. Just because you have taken on beliefs that may limit you doesn’t mean that the rest of your life has to be restricted by those beliefs. Our brains are continually changing as a result of our daily experiences.

You can change your life by changing your decisions but anyone who has made the decision to quit smoking or lose weight knows it isn’t always that simple. However, support that decision with your daily choices and a success mindset can occur quite easily.

Choices are made when you have two or more options. For instance, if you experience a setback you can choose to look for the opportunity in that experience or you can use this setback as an excuse to stop trying. The first choice supports you, the second choice doesn’t. When you establish the habit of always acting on the choice that supports you, you begin to establish habits which allow you to be successful at everything you undertake.

The Mindset Of Success

Whenever you learn something new, such as learning to tie your shoes, ride a bike or drive a car your brain sets up a neural pathway associated with that action. At first that neural pathway is weak and you may have to really focus on what you are doing to be able to do it. The more you repeat that action the stronger the neural pathway becomes and before long you can carry out that action without conscious thought. Most people believe that what happens to them determines how they feel but that is not the case, your neural pathways produce neurochemicals so your actions and reactions determine how you feel.

Around 30 minutes a day is all it takes to establish a new neural pathway. So you need to act as if you believe you can have what you want until such time that acting in this way becomes an automatic response.

How To Achieve Your Goals When You Don’t Have The Money

When you know you can have your goals and heart’s desires you are excited, you feel happy, you get ready for what you want to come into your life. You look forward to it. When you don’t believe you can have what you want you may say you want something, then worry, complain, blame and focus on all the reasons why you can’t have what it. You may talk about what you want with people who can’t help you.

When you believe you can have your desires you prepare for it. You do your research, training, or whatever it takes so that you will be ready when opportunity comes. We would all like to know how we are going to achieve our goals but very few people do at first. Not knowing is what prevents most people from ever getting started. Put your need to know aside, then take one step after another that will help you achieve your goal.

Some of the things we say are so familiar that we don’t even notice them, and although I am very conscious of what I say most of the time, every now and then something slips out that shows me that I have a belief I need to change. At one time I was making a large amount of money and paying out a large amount of money on home renovations when I said to my daughter, ‘I’m not looking forward to the money being gone’.

I wasn’t even aware of what I had said until my daughter looked horrified and said, ‘Mum, did you hear what you said?’

How To Achieve Your Goals When You Don’t Have The Money

A habit I established years ago, which has served me well, is that I always prepare for what I want. If I need more money, I put money aside for that goal on a regular basis, no matter how small. To me saving even small amounts is a sign of faith that I will get what I want. When I do this the money always comes.

Sometimes preparation takes other forms, I might set up my environment, do a course, or research a holiday it doesn’t really matter what the preparation is as long as it supports the goal that you want to achieve.

Another habit that has served me well is to not talk about my finances. Years ago, when I was poor, I continually talked about the lack of money in my life with my girlfriends. When I became aware that this habit was keeping me stuck I stopped doing it. I made the decision that I would not tell anyone, except those closest to me who need to know, about my financial situation. If you think of money as your best friend, and it can certainly add to the quality of your life, you would not be talking about your best friend to everyone.

There have been many times when the only person who has believed in my goals and dreams is me, and that is okay. The key to success is to act as if you believe you can have what you want. You may not always feel confident, that is perfectly natural, but repeated, consistent action will produce the results you desire.

Ready – Fire – Aim

Motivational speaker and author, Jack Canfield recommends a strategy which would probably horrify a lot of perfectionists, but it’s one that I love.   It’s called ‘Ready, Fire, Aim.’ Jack says that too many people spend their whole life aiming and never firing. They are always getting ready, getting it perfect. The quickest way to hit a target is to fire, see where the bullet lands, then adjust your aim accordingly. If the hit was two inches above the target, lower your aim a little and fire again. Keep firing and keep readjusting. Soon you are will hit the bull’s-eye. The same is true for anything’[1].

I have used this strategy for all of my adult life and I don’t believe I would have the business I do today if I did not. The job that changed the direction of my life was as a financial planner and manager of a women’s advisory service called The Financial Woman.This role started in 1984 when it wasn’t easy for women to get home loans and business loans usually required a male guarantor. Many older women didn’t even know how to write a cheque and ATMs were relatively new and scared a lot of women.

The Financial Woman was launched in a blaze of publicity promoting me as the expert on women’s financial matters. At that stage, I hadn’t even seen a client. It’s not that I wasn’t qualified for the job I was, it was just a very new industry. I was one of the first women authorised to give financial advice. I had a background in working with investments. I had been in business for myself. I had an accounting background, although I didn’t have the official qualifications I had completed the Securities Industry course and specialised training.

Ready – Fire – Aim

I was ready for the opportunity when it came and to expand my knowledge I attended individual training sessions with my new employer while working out my notice period at my old job. Even though I attended trainings several nights a week, I still went to bed each night with investment prospectuses. It was a scary time as I was way outside my comfort zone, I made mistakes and I corrected them as I went along.

Life is a journey, if we wait to be perfect we never move forward and not much changes. ‘Ready, Fire, Aim’ it is a strategy that really works.

[1] Jack Canfield, The Success Principles, 2004.

To Hear Your Intuition You Need To Quiet Your Mind

On 19th October 1987 I was working as a financial planner. This was the day that the media dubbed as ‘Black Monday’ when stock markets around the world crashed.

On the Friday prior to the crash I received a memo from the company that I worked under which said that they were uncomfortable with the current trends in the market.  They urged caution and left it to our discretion as to whether we should tell our clients to withdraw their money.  This was not as straightforward as it may seem because if every financial planner and broker advised their clients to sell they would create the very crash they hoped to avoid.  I had to think carefully about the repercussions of my advice.  So, I meditated on what to do.  Following that meditation, I followed my intuition and informed my clients about our concerns and left the choice up to them.  I spent the day on the phone contacting as many people as possible.  None of us expected the market to crash quite so quickly or to fall as much as it did.

Some clients acted instantly, even going in person to the investment company’s offices on the Friday and putting in their redemption requests.  These clients pulled out at the peak of the market and made money as their requests were lodged prior to the actual stock market crash.  Afterwards I asked some of these clients why they acted so quickly and in most cases they told me that they followed their intuition.

Warren Buffet has been named the second richest man in the world and no matter how much money he gives away; he just keeps getting richer.  For many years’ people listened to his advice because he was rich.  However, in 1999 he went against the trend when he predicted the downfall of Internet stocks and some people called him a ‘has been’. Warren kept saying, ‘I know it’s going to change I just don’t know when’.

Buffet’s predictions were later proven to be correct and he attributes his success to what he calls his ‘inner scorecard’ which is his ability to follow his inner guidance and not be swayed by other people’s opinions.

To Hear Your Intuition You Need To Quiet Your Mind

If you have lived with an internal critic for a long time, then it’s most likely you have stopped listening to your intuition.  The two just don’t co-exist very well.  And that’s because the inner critic is always second guessing every choice you make.  So the first thing you need to do is make it okay to be less than perfect, or decide that everything is perfect exactly as it is.

The easiest way to start accessing your intuition is to quieten your mind and ask questions and I prefer to do this just before going to sleep or prior to meditating.  You can ask for guidance, inspiration, an idea, whether you should trust someone, or take a job. there is no point though in asking if you are not prepared to listen to the answers that you receive.  Intuition only works if you act upon it.

Problems can either be stepping stones which help you uncover your gifts or they can keep you stuck in your fears.  When I first became interested in personal development, I felt that the authors of the motivational books I read led a problem free life so I always expected to reach a point in my life where I wouldn’t face any more major challenges—I was so wrong.  Problems are a part of life and everyone experiences them.  Often positive people don’t talk about what is going on in their lives, so it’s easy to assume that their lives are better than ours.

Wayne Dyer said, and I’m paraphrasing because I can’t remember the exact quote, ‘When you have a big dharma (purpose), you get big problems’.  Problems are not a form of punishment—they are opportunities to let your fears go so that you can grow to your full potential.

Your Purpose Finds You

Rachel said, “I am falling over with happiness”.  When Rachel started training as a life she followed all of the recommended instructions we give exactly. She never missed a session. She put in the recommended study time. She asked for advice and acted upon it. When it was time to practise coach, an acquaintance who worked for a charitable group, asked if she would be interested in coaching some of the people they helped, the long term unemployed. She accepted, and the coaching was so well received that she was offered a paid contract as a life coach to start once she graduated.

The synchronicity that Rachel experienced, is something that has happened many times in my own life. It occurs when you do what you love, when your thoughts, words and actions support the life you want to create, and when you are ready for opportunity.

Most people who live rich, purposeful lives don’t always know what their life purpose is when they start out, but as they take steps to do things that they have always wanted to do, their purpose reveals itself.

What prevents some people from finding their purpose is their intellect. When you get stuck in the left hemisphere of the brain, which uses logic and reason, to make life choices you miss out on so much. Sometimes you just have to have faith and trust your heart. The right hemisphere of the brain, which you access when you meditate, is where your intuition resides, by accessing this hemisphere more often your ability to make wiser choices improves.

I am an expert at helping people create rich, meaningful lives. I have a long track record of success, but I can’t help everyone and that is because some people aren’t ready yet. There are people that I know I could help but they insist on doing it their way. If they persist they generally get there, but it often takes a long time.

Your Purpose Finds You

The most prevalent reason that keeps people stuck is their fear that they are not good enough. If you feel this way I would suggest you say to yourself every time this thought enters your mind, ‘So what?’

Adopt an attitude that you will try what you love and if aren’t any good at it choose to  just keep working at it until you are. If you don’t like it, congratulate yourself that you at least had the courage to try. You gain something from every experience.

You don’t have to agonise over finding your life purpose, your purpose finds you, when you trust your heart.