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This page contains stories of people who have been helped by life coaching. By sharing our stories we learn and grow. The stories contained in this page have come from our my clients, my clients and book reader's. Anne's stories It didn't take me long to assess that Melissa was a people pleaser, when she was on her own she was a strong independant woman, the moment a man came into her life, she changed and everything she said and did was about pleasing someone else. So, it was important for Melissa to create an identity for herself based on who she wanted to be and what made her happy. It was also important for Melissa to learn to set boundaries. I also asked Melissa to make a conscious choice as to what she believed in and make a commitment to living by those beliefs. Like most people Melissa believed one thing but her words and actions did not support her beliefs. In all I worked with Melissa for around 4 months and during that time she met a new man. By being very aware and making conscious choices she was able to change her pattern and be herself. Melissa and James are now married and working on creating the family they have always dreamed of.
I first met Myra when I worked as a financial planner and my first contact with her was on the phone when I noticed how abrupt she was. She was also very tense at our first meeting. For twenty years Myra had not lodged a tax return and she lived in fear of being discovered. Finally overcome by guilt, she confessed, ‘I cannot stand it any longer. I realise I may lose my home and even go to jail. Every time I drive past a women’s prison I think I’ll be in there one day’. When I explained that the worst that could happen was that she would receive a fine, she really didn’t believe me. Another of her problems was that she had barely enough money to live on, although she earned a good salary. She had not been brave enough to fill in a tax rebate form that would have automatically reduced her tax, as she did not want to alert the taxation department to her situation. It only took minutes to assess that Myra had paid too much tax and was due for a substantial refund. We could only find records dating back seven years, and the Taxation Department was happy to accept those. The end result was a tax refund of $25,000 and no fine. It is hard to believe now that this client was
the same person. Myra attended a course I ran Financially Free
and she came for regular coaching to help her become comfortable
with money. Whereas before she was lucky to have twenty cents
in her wallet, she made sure she always had $50 in her wallet.
She bought a new car, renovated her house and took her first
trip overseas.
Bronwyn had only just decided to clear her debts and buy a home of her own when she was called into her boss’ office one Friday afternoon, and was dismissed—effective immediately. Half an hour later Bronwyn was waiting for a cab having packed up her desk and handed back the keys to her company car. Because of the unexpectedness of the sacking, and the fact that Bronwyn had quite happily worked for the company for five years, she was shocked and her first reaction was to wonder what she’d done wrong. Bronwyn knew that she could waste valuable energy by blaming others. She also knew that she could ring all her friends and talk about the situation and get sympathy in the short term but that wouldn’t change anything. Bronwyn chose not to react and to act like the powerful person she wanted to be. She asked herself, ‘How would a powerful person act in this situation?’ She decided this could be an opportunity to go into business for herself. This was something she’d wanted to do for a long time but she’d found it difficult to give up the security of a well paying job for the unknown. Even though she still felt extremely fearful she decided to follow her heart. Bronwyn began by letting everyone know that she was in business as a public relations consultant. She needed very little capital to begin as she already had a computer and she could work from home, but she still needed money to live on until the business was established—so, she took a cleaning job which allowed her to work early in the morning so that her days were free to spend on building her business. Initially Bronwyn’s income was a lot less than she’d received from her former job, but by managing her money carefully and reducing all spending for the short term, she was able to survive until she established an income from her business. She also made a contingency plan in case she didn’t generate an income from her business in the time allowed, but she didn’t need to put that plan into action because twelve months after being made redundant Bronwyn was making three times her former salary. Life’s problems always present us with an opportunity to face our fears, and in facing our fears we set ourselves free Coaches stories Jane came to me as an accomplished single mum - she had bought
her own home, had a good job and was studying so she could follow
her dreams. But she had one problem that was troubling her - she
had trouble letting go of her ex, who had been abusive and she
kept attracting men who did not value her. Anne’s book “Love the Life You Live” lay on
top of a stack of second hand books in a store in downtown Perth
. I bought the book because, as usual, I was looking for answers.
I read the book on my flight back home to the Maldives . It was
the answer to my prayers then and it still provides me with answers
today. I started my school on 2nd July 2007. On the 20th August I had
my first intake of trainees (15 boys) who will be trained as waiters
in hospitality. After three months of knowledge based training,
eight of them are going for their apprenticeship in the resorts
on 21st of this month. • 20 trainees will start December 2007. • A recruiting project for employment and training launched by the Government is being awarded to my school because of its innovative and challenging concept. • Every trainee who attends my school starts with the Ten Step process. The school now has six permanent staff and extra consultants when needed. • In January the British Red Cross asked me to conduct two seminars. A community group of 30 housewives asked me to do a seminar. All the programs are in Dhivehi and the people love it. • In my last meeting in Bangkok organised by UNESCAP (United
Nations Economic & Social Commisions for Asia & the Pacific),
I told a forum that the most successful approach that worked for
me is to do life skills as part of coaching for women. From that
meeting I was asked to do a two hour presentation in Bali on successful
training including what life skills are all about and how to get
trained. I am going to recommend the Hart Life Coaching program
to them as I do to everyone.
Wendy & David Germon I was asked to run a series of workshops for people who are carers. Some are caring for children with disabilities, some are caring for elderly and/or parents with dementia. Most of them were not so good at caring for themselves. The first session I did with them was on helping them to identify their values. At the end of this session they all went home enthused and prepared to do the work. I must admit I have been astounded at their commitment. They all have their values displayed or close by. A lot of them took my advice and stuck stickers around their homes and cars to remind them of who they wanted to be. A lot of them tell me when the demands get really difficult they cling to the values they have chosen and are immediately comforted. I have been working with this group for some months now and last week we had a couple of newcomers. One of them made the comment she really liked what I was talking about but asked how she could remain focused when she got home. The group as one all turned to her and said loudly,"your values". As a result of my work with these groups I have
been asked to be guest speaker at a number of organisations and
they always want me to start with the values session. My work
is so rewarding and I am seeing people progress quickly. I have
found I am really good at getting people to stay loyal to themselves
and to find a way of living with ease and grace. My second marriage was ending, my teenage daughter
kept running away from home and living on the streets, I had to
sell my beautiful home which I had just spent a year renovating,
and I hated working in the corporate world. Two years later my
life was completely transformed thanks to my dear friend and life
coach Carmel Corbett.
Anne's book reader stories I purchased “Love the Life you Live”
in October 2002 in Sydney, read it once then read it again over
my New Year holiday in January 2003, just after I turned 50. Over
time I adopted Anne’s approach, I decided to be fearless,
decisive and courageous, and gained sufficient confidence to write
a career book with a co-author, “The Naked Career”
was launched in July 2006.
Interestingly after launching my book I experienced discomfort and distress which together with the rest of life’s challenges resulted in spiking blood pressure. After hospitalization and many medical the diagnosis the results showed that I was a healthy 53 year old man. I began to realize that to Love the Life you Live you must be yourself, relax and let the flow of life take you on your chosen journey. I started writing down all that I was grateful for. I remember kneeling at the foot of my bed one day around this time just giving thanks for who I was and praying for strength and courage to follow my chosen path. Since then I have sold a business, changed my approach to how I think about life, given thought to the rest of my career which is coming into tune with my desired lifestyle. Yachting is now a new goal for pleasure and my wife and I are to become grandparents in 2008, twice in the first two months. My mother is currently facing terminal stomach cancer and I take strength from her philosophy: “I feel I am in a bubble of love” she tells the family as she puts on a brave face to cope with the final stages of her life. “I love you all” she says, “The world goes on” she echoes and “you’re not to worry”. Don’t worry just “Love the Life you Live”. Thank
you Anne Hartley for your book of wisdom. Paul Meyer's book, written with Stephen Conway iis, ‘The
Naked Career, Your Journey to Emotional and Financial Fulfillment,
available from Amazon, or visit www.thenakedcareer.net
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